Dance anyway...

Even if your sad or lonely, there is a rhythm.  Hear it, feel it, then change the tempo and dance.

"everything has rhythm, everything dances."  - Maya Angelou

parenting...

I could be wrong here, but I don't think there will ever be a bigger challenge than parenting.

Every stage, every age offers up its unique lesson on a platter.

At this moment in time, I have a 13 y.o. girl and a 15 y.o. boy.

The easiest part?  Experiencing total joy from watching them grow into their own and finding their own passion. 

The hardest part?  Watching them make the same mistakes I did and hoping they don't get screwed in the process.

The secrets to a long life

I was listening to the radio in the car the other day and heard that the oldest person had just died at 116.  This lead to a discussion of Jeanne Calment, the oldest documented person who lived until the age of 122.  

A frenchwoman, Jeanne shared her secrets to longevity, some of which included:

• wine,
• two cigarettes a day,
• tennis,
• bicycling,
• walking,
• and chocolate.

Although, perhaps what most contributed to her long life was her humor, wit, and lack of stress.  

She once said:

"If you can't do anything about it, don't worry about it. "

Cheers! 

Exploring boundaries

As a people-pleaser, I've often struggled with setting personal boundaries.  I have no doubt this was partly to blame for my two failed marriages and some of my parenting challenges.  The good news is that we can all learn to set boundaries and still be nice.

So, what exactly is a boundary? 

The dictionary defines boundary as...

"Something that indicates the farthest limit; 

as of an area, border"

When we talk about a person having boundaries, we refer to a person's limit as to what they find acceptable or comfortable.

Did you ever feel that sick, anxious feeling when someone asked you do something you really didn't want to do?  Perhaps it was even illegal or harmful to you or others?

Think of that feeling as a warning sign.

Then ask yourself:

• Am I uncomfortable with this?
• Does this violate my values and/or beliefs?
• Does this go against my own true nature and what actions I would take in my best interest or those I love?

If you answer yes to any of the above then....

SET A BOUNDARY!